“You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.” — Antoine de Saint Exupéry
20 years on
Today we mark our twentieth wedding anniversary — heading toward a quarter of a century together.
Some years were brief, chapter-like. Others felt like thousand-page books. We’ve lived through seasons of sunlight and soft breeze, while others were thick with fog, when the way forward was hard to see. And yet, here we are. Still choosing, still caring, still building, day by day.
Marriage isn’t a fixed thing. It’s not something you just have — it’s something you keep growing into. Like a garden, it needs tending. If you stop showing up, things slowly fade.
Loving someone comes with a kind of responsibility. Not control, not perfection. But presence. You’re partly responsible for the life you shape together: the tone of your days, the warmth of your home, the health of your connection.
Of course, not everything is in your hands. But enough is. Enough to keep choosing: yourself, and those who truly matter. 
Lantern Notes 